Gender and Identity

 What is "identity"? Google defines it as "The fact of being who a person is." It's a "fact" of "being". So according to Google, identity is based on fact, not opinion.

People may identify us a certain way, or by certain distinctions (like skin color, religious beliefs, academic accomplishments, popularity, physical ability, etc.), but how they identify us is not the same as who we are. Who I am is not defined by what other people think of me, because those are opinions. I may identify as "male" or as "white" or as "Christian", but those identifications are not the same as an identity. Identity is based on facts, but who establishes those facts? We'll come back to this in a moment.

What is "gender identity"? Once again, Google defines this as "An individual's personal sense of having a particular gender." Unlike "Identity", this seems to be more subjective - its a "personal sense" as it relates to gender. So unlike "Identity", "gender identity" is based on personal opinion.

This terms gets used a lot in our culture right now. The movement surrounding it has separated gender from biological sex so that it has become something you choose rather than something you are born as. Within this movement, gender "no longer means only male or female. Instead, gender now takes into account identity and expression." Previously, gender and biological sex were the same thing - it was what you were born as. But now, its based on your opinion and how you want to express yourself.

This causes a lot of confusion for people - both within the movement and outside it. You might hear terms like "Gender Dysphoria", which is "a clinical term for unease or dissatisfaction. Gender Dysphoria is the feeling that your emotional and psychological identity doesn't match the biological sex you were born with." What this means is that gender is based more on opinion (or feelings) than on fact. What happens when we allow our feelings to dictate who we are? Well, usually this means that "who we are" changes whenever our feelings change. This is hardly a healthy way to live. It means that we can never really be sure of who we are, even in terms of gender, because it is based in something that changes (our feelings).

This becomes even more of a problem when it comes to the transgender movement. If we base our gender identity on how we feel about ourselves, and then surgically change our bodies to fit that feeling, what happens when our feelings change? What happens if surgery doesn't fix the dysphoria? What happens when we want to change back (if we want to change back)? This is one of the major dangers of the movement: it teaches that how you feel about who you are is more important than how you were born. From there it pushes you to physically alter your body to match your mind. The consideration that it is your mind that needs to be changed is rejected altogether. Why? Because the movement teaches that your opinion trumps reality.

I have interacted with a few people who have been a part of this movement (they have since left). One woman expressed that complications in the transition process forced her to stop. She took time to reflect on her options at that point, and as she thought about herself, she slowly came to realize that her dysphoria was not a confusion of being born with a man's brain into a woman's body. In reality, she was confused because she did not fit into the stereotypes that our society put on women. And because she did not fit those stereotypes, she felt as though she should have been a man - hence why she tried to transition. She has since done a lot of research into the movement and found that much of what is taught about gender identity and transgender ideology isn't based in fact at all. And its causing a lot more harm than it need to by pushing people as it does.

Let's bring this discussion back to identity. We discussed in last week's post that biblical sexuality is strictly binary: there is male and there is female. The Bible points to sex and marriage being between a man and a woman. The two are made one flesh; they are whole, complete. Deviations from this “norm” are sin, and an abomination to the LORD (if you have questions about this, I would recommend reading the post and asking questions there). One of the problems faced with this rise in gender identification is that people usually identify themselves AS their gender. That is WHO THEY ARE. So if someone identifies as gay, or lesbian, or transgender, and then I come along and share that the Bible says homosexuality is sinful, I am not just condemning their behavior, I’m condemning them (from their perspective). I’m saying that they are a sin. Not that they are a sinner (someone who sins) but that they ARE a sin. So they feel attacked, and naturally get defensive. This is particularly so for people who claim to be a Christian while also claiming to be gay, or lesbian, or queer, or transgender. What's really happening in those cases is that these people are claiming to have two identities. On the one hand, their identity is in Christ as a child of God, and on the other hand they are gay/lesbian/queer/etc. This mixes reality with opinion, and those things don't go together.

What does it mean to have our identity in Christ? Well, I don't have a Google definition for you this time. Instead, let's look to the Bible for some answers.

John 1:12 - "Yet to all who did receive [Jesus], to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God."

So those who are in Christ as children of God. That is how God views them.

Galatians 2:20 - "I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me."

Colossians 3:1-4 - "Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God. When Christ, who is your life, appears, then you also will appear with him in glory."

2 Corinthians 5:17 - "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new."

When we come to Christ in faith, our old self dies alongside him in his crucifixion on the cross. Then we are raised to life with him with a new self, the new creation. Essentially, who we used to be before coming to Christ dies. It is gone. It is done away with. We are then given a new self, a new identity in Christ.

The problem with the current LGBTQ+ and gender identity movement is that it emphasizes our personal experience and our own ideas about who we are over God's declaration of who we are. When we come to Christ, we put our old selves to death. However we identified ourselves before coming to Christ dies. Every desire, every fantasy, every aspect of who we were (as sinners worthy of eternal damnation) is done away with and become new in Christ. The apostle Paul writes about this in his letter to the church in Ephesus. He says that if they want to become fully unified and mature in Christ, this is what needs to happen.

Ephesians 4:17-24 - "So I tell you this, and insist on it in the Lord, that you must no longer live as the Gentiles [non-believers] do, in the futility of their thinking. They are darkened in their understanding and separated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them due to the hardening of their hearts. Having lost all sensitivity, they have given themselves over to sensuality so as to indulge in every kind of impurity, and they are full of greed. That, however, is not the way of life you learned when you heard about Christ and were taught in him in accordance with the truth that is in Jesus. You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness."

The life of the Christian is in direct contrast to the way of living of the people around them. Romans 12:2 says it like this: "Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is - His good, pleasing and perfect will."

When we become Christians, we surrender ourselves, our whole selves, over to God. We die to who we used to be and become new in our identity as children of God. He changes us, transforms us, and renews us. Over the course of our lives He makes us more like Jesus. That means our identity is not found in our gender, in our orientation, in our skin color, or anything else. Those things do not define us. Our identity is in Christ, and who HE says that we are.

So as you're thinking about identity, are you going to base who you are on feelings, or on the reality of who God says that you are? I know we focused on gender in this post, but this topic goes beyond that. We allow lot of things to affect how we think about ourselves. We allow so many influences to dictate who we are. This should not be. If you are in Christ, then you are who God says you are. Period. Base your identity on that reality, and not on feelings, opinions, or anything that the world says about you.

If you are experiencing confusion about your identity, whether it be related to gender, sexuality, or something else, please reach out and talk about it. Don't try to find the answers all by yourself. Look to the Word of God as your source of truth, and talk to someone who can help you discover who God says you are. Amen.